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i'm surprised, this very precise concept was treated by Chesterton in one the Father Brown short stories. how personal hapiness can make other people miserable. The storie is called the "the three tools of death"

http://fiction.eserver.org/...

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I don't think it's "I'm upset by your happiness" as much as "I'm depressed because my happiness is so low compared to how happy everyone around me seems to be". No one is suggesting that other people should be less happy; I think they're just noting that pretending to be happy (in order to fit in, etc) does impose a "cost" on others.

Whether this "cost" is sufficient to justify changing our behavior is a completely separate question - and one which pretty much has to be a subjective, personal, decision. After all, it's not like "pretending to be happier than you really are" could be a crime - or even a socially-disapproved-of state of mind.

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I trust the suicide rates more than self-reported happiness. Self-reported feelings aren't as reliable as the way people act with their feet.

I'm not convinced that people in self-reportedly-happy countries are all that happy. As a thought experiment, imagine life for people who lived in a real-life version of the Brady Bunch. They'd be socially pressured to act happy all the time. However, inwardly, they'd probably be rather morose.

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If acting happy has a cost to others, why is it ok to do it when you are happy? If there are compensating effects, like the desire to seem happy, or the value of others having accurate information about you, what's to say these come out together at near honesty?

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I think happiness makes surrounding people happier if they can match it. If they are sufficiently sad/angry/depressed that they can't get into sync with happiness, then being around happy people can amplify the negative emotions.

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Oddly, today Philosophy bites posted: Pascal Bruckner on Happiness

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Great point. The distribution of rent-seeking confidence fakery concerns me too.

In general, negative externalities of publishing (I include all media including speaking) hasn't been looked at comprehensively, yet, by competent empiricists. We have people claiming violence on tv and porn causes negative externalities, but discussion hasn't extended rigorously to everything on tv, on the internet, and in microsocial discourse.

This might fit into Prof. Hanson's "Information Economics" -I'm less interested into an ideological entrypoint or posture and more in quant empirical analysis.

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There's some data to back that up . . . (Republican neighborhoods = more suicide attempts in youth)

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Asking people if they are generally happy is like asking people if they are generally hungry, or generally have to take a piss. If they respond positively, it is an honest portrayal of their state of mind at the moment of the survey, but not much else.

Happiness is falsely portrayed as a permanent state, when it in fact fluctuates constantly. Even depressed people have times when they are happy. The most successful people in the world have periods where they are not particularly happy.

Happiness itself provides no clear advantage in the game of natural selection, but internal promises of future happiness certainly do. The pursuit of happiness motivates us to act, and it motivates us to act in ways that are beneficial to our genes. It matters very little whether that happiness is all we hoped it would be.

In order to get meat machines to act in their genes' interests, the meat machines need to be motivated to constantly pursue some promise of happiness like a carrot on a stick.

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I don't think there's anything wrong with the term "successful suicide." The only reason to substitute a euphemism for the plain-spoken term is to dehumanize the suicide and deny him agency, promoting the medical model of suicide.

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Robin, I thought your thing was signaling? Happy people often have reason to be happy, mainly because they are enjoying the fruits of all their good qualities (beauty, health, wealth, sociability). So pretending to be happy is a way of tricking others into thinking you may have the same qualities as all those actually happy people. That's mainly why people do it.

Would you then agree with this slight modification of your moral prescription: "So please, only [signal good qualities] if you actually [have them]. It is hard to see how your gains from [signaling] could outweigh its harm on others."

Also, as others have said, happiness, like laughter, is contagious and only increases the happiness of (most) people in the area.

And finally, happiness is mainly a state of mind so pretending to be happy may lead to some increase in real happiness. It is hard to see why this increase is less in magnitude and/or morally inferior to the increased sadness of resentful witnesses.

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This is perfectly consonant with, and exactly what you would expect from, Roy Baumeister's explanation of why people commit suicide, which seemed quite plausible to me.

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There seems to be a paradox here with what I have read. Something is missing and I feel it does not have anything to do with happiness or the lack of.

Look for something simpler.

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Racists are people, too.

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I wouldn't put too much credibility on this report. They first fitted the suicide data and happiness data to a model that included age, race, gender, education, income, marital status, and employment/labor-force status and then compared the fitted suicide data to their fitted happiness data.

http://www2.warwick.ac.uk/n...

On the other hand, if you look at the 9 lowest suicide rates, those 9 states voted majority Democratic (in 2006 congressional elections). Maybe it is only Republicans that are made suicidal by seeing other people being happy. That would explain a lot. ;)

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Or, perhaps (perhaps instead, perhaps in addition), measurements of "happiness" don't really measure anything, or at least don't measure what one might think they measure.

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