<blockquote?Why is there not just a market for high status female “escorts” in the more literal interpretation of that word? Or does that market exist already?
It does, but it's hard to tell the difference between an escort and a prostitute because, in order to present the appearance of compliance with the law, many prostitutes work for "escort agencies" and present themselves as escorts with the understanding that they're willing to have sex with the clients "off the record" in exchange for large tips.
However, in the absence of additional clarification, we don't know whether or not intereactions with the high-end sex workers in question are publicly visible, so the idea that many men's relationships with sex workers takes on therapeutic qualities does seem more reasonable than ascribing it entirely to status-seeking. These men are presumably seeing the same women repeatedly, and having sex on some occasions while just talking on others - effectively paying for a sexual friendship. I suppose though that it may be that having someone assure you of your own high value is only therapeutic insofar as it creates a simulated environment where your status is exaggerated (i.e the therapeutic effects are still closely related to the status effects).
Incidentally, if men are indeed having hiring high-status women just to boost their own status by having them appear with them at social functions, it is odd that this in done under the veneer of a paying-for-sex relationship, when the actual interaction is sex-free. Why is there not just a market for high status female "escorts" in the more literal interpretation of that word? Or does that market exist already?
"High end prostitutes are usually high end because they are physically attractive, intelligent, and socially adept – essentially high status women."
Very good point. Essentially, people like to associate with verified-as-impressive folks, and being in business as a high-end prostitute is a signal of impressive qualities.
I think the key with high end prostitutes is that men take them to social events (there was a special about high end prostitutes on one of those investigative journalism shows that talked about this. This may be it. ). High end prostitutes are usually high end because they are physically attractive, intelligent, and socially adept - essentially high status women. So the man, by being seen with the prostitute, is seen as the type of guy that can attract high status women. This increases his status in the eyes of others (that don't know she is a prostitute). The effect at work is exactly the same as what the PUA's call "preselection." Though in this case, the proximate goal isn't necessarily the attraction of other women.
Does the first case necessarily indicate status seeking behavior? I think the article's discussion might be more accurate:
"Indeed, the high-end sex workers I have studied routinely see themselves as acting the part of a counselor or a marriage therapist. They say their job is to feed a man's need for judgment-free friendship and, at times, to help him repair his broken partnership. Little wonder, then, that so many describe themselves to me as members of the "wellness" industry."
Maybe it's just that seeing a prostitute is viewed as being higher status than seeing a therapist.
Wow. A study has discovered that a significant fraction of what "escort services" provide to their customers is "escort services." Stop the presses!
<blockquote?Why is there not just a market for high status female “escorts” in the more literal interpretation of that word? Or does that market exist already?
It does, but it's hard to tell the difference between an escort and a prostitute because, in order to present the appearance of compliance with the law, many prostitutes work for "escort agencies" and present themselves as escorts with the understanding that they're willing to have sex with the clients "off the record" in exchange for large tips.
However, in the absence of additional clarification, we don't know whether or not intereactions with the high-end sex workers in question are publicly visible, so the idea that many men's relationships with sex workers takes on therapeutic qualities does seem more reasonable than ascribing it entirely to status-seeking. These men are presumably seeing the same women repeatedly, and having sex on some occasions while just talking on others - effectively paying for a sexual friendship. I suppose though that it may be that having someone assure you of your own high value is only therapeutic insofar as it creates a simulated environment where your status is exaggerated (i.e the therapeutic effects are still closely related to the status effects).
Incidentally, if men are indeed having hiring high-status women just to boost their own status by having them appear with them at social functions, it is odd that this in done under the veneer of a paying-for-sex relationship, when the actual interaction is sex-free. Why is there not just a market for high status female "escorts" in the more literal interpretation of that word? Or does that market exist already?
"High end prostitutes are usually high end because they are physically attractive, intelligent, and socially adept – essentially high status women."
Very good point. Essentially, people like to associate with verified-as-impressive folks, and being in business as a high-end prostitute is a signal of impressive qualities.
I think the key with high end prostitutes is that men take them to social events (there was a special about high end prostitutes on one of those investigative journalism shows that talked about this. This may be it. ). High end prostitutes are usually high end because they are physically attractive, intelligent, and socially adept - essentially high status women. So the man, by being seen with the prostitute, is seen as the type of guy that can attract high status women. This increases his status in the eyes of others (that don't know she is a prostitute). The effect at work is exactly the same as what the PUA's call "preselection." Though in this case, the proximate goal isn't necessarily the attraction of other women.
Does the first case necessarily indicate status seeking behavior? I think the article's discussion might be more accurate:
"Indeed, the high-end sex workers I have studied routinely see themselves as acting the part of a counselor or a marriage therapist. They say their job is to feed a man's need for judgment-free friendship and, at times, to help him repair his broken partnership. Little wonder, then, that so many describe themselves to me as members of the "wellness" industry."
Maybe it's just that seeing a prostitute is viewed as being higher status than seeing a therapist.