Can Kids Consent?

Back in 1983, at the young age of 18, my old friend Max More published an article saying he didn’t see what’s wrong with adults propositioning kids for sex.

It is difficult to comprehend how merely becoming friendly with a child, and then encouraging him or her to indulge in sexual activities, can be a violation of rights. … Many people will object that … individuals below the age of consent, do not know what they are doing, and therefore the compliance is not voluntary at all. I believe this argument is fallacious, and that it is invariably presented by a kind of mental reflex action, and not as a result of conscious deliberation. … Does it really matter whether a young child has experienced any form of sexual arousal before? Does it really matter whether the child has any understanding of sex? Sex is just another source of pleasure, a potentially potent source perhaps, but basically little different to any other. If there is nothing objectionable about an adult giving a child sweets or toys, why is giving sexual pleasure wrong? … If a child does not want to go to court, has not told the parents about his or her sexual activities, and has shown no signs of upset or fear, then there is no justification for assuming the use of coercion. (more)

Today, Max backpedals:

In my foolish arrogance, I wrote about a topic that I was then too naïve to properly understand. … I was right to defend the free speech rights of a highly unpopular group. I was right to question the validity of a universal law of consent that ignores the maturity or lack of maturity of each individual. … Where I was wrong is in basing a view of maximal freedom on an inadequate conception of consent. Defining fully the conditions for real consent is difficult, but clearly lack of resistance is insufficient to indicate consent. If someone lacks understanding of what they are getting into, they may have agreed but have not consented. Consent requires agreement after thoughtful consideration. (more)

But we almost never understand the full implications of our actions. Who really understands the implications of getting married, having kids, choosing a career, or choosing a national citizenship?  But we usually say adults consent to such things.  So what does it take to enable consent?

When someone makes you an offer, it is reasonable to expect them to reveal possible downsides, and even to help you to hear from folks who recommend against accepting their offer. If your choice has a big effect on a third party (i.e., parents who’d fund a pregnancy), it can be reasonable to seek their approval. And if your choice isn’t very time critical, it is also reasonable to have some time to think it over. “Many people have come to regret this; George knows more. Tell me your choice tomorrow.”

Yes kids can make mistakes and we might want to limit their ability to make mistakes.  But adults can make lots of mistakes too; why treat kids so differently? Yes people change over time, and so we may want to limit how much young folks can commit their older selves. And yes teen brains change more rapidly than adult brains. But if we let 20 year olds make huge commitments, like marriage or citizenship, that limit their quite different 60 year old selves, why shouldn’t we let 15 year olds make choices limiting their 25 year old selves. Do teen sex choices limit distant future choices anywhere near as much as do marriage, kids, careers, etc.?

Aside from the issues I’ve mentioned, my training in the social and human sciences doesn’t offer me any more analytical tools to distinguish thirteen year olds from adults regarding sexual consent. I’m not saying kids can resaonably consent; I’m just suggesting that standard theories offer little support for saying they can’t.

So why are we so reluctant to let kids make their own choices, and yet so adamant that similar adults choices should be free? One obvious explanation is status; we affirm our higher status as adults by limiting what kids can do. But I suspect there is more:

If culture is far, then in near mode we become more like a common universal human, and in far mode we diverge to become the different “subspecies” according to our different cultures. Culture being mainly far might help explain why … we are far more paternalistic toward kids than adults; perhaps we distrust kids as folks from other cultures, since kids have not yet fully diverged to join our subspecies.

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  • Michael Rosefield

    Perhaps the issue is that, as a culture, we have fixated on sex yet made it an uncomfortable, almost hidden, topic. It’s almost like everyone’s dirty secret. It’s easy to become obsessed with it in unhealthy ways and get all kind of neuroses, especially if the process starts as a child.

    Maybe we protect kids because we know we’re more likely to cause them problems by introducing them to something with so much baggage that cannot be easily processed.

  • Lennart Regebro

    This question gets obvious when you stop treating “kids” as one heterogen group. It’s pretty obvious that newborn babies can’t make decisions, at all. And it’s quite obvious that a five year old does not have the capacity to even remotely understand what getting married means.

    Therefore, children do not have the same rights to make their own decisions as adults have.

    The question therefore only boils down to when we should give them that right, and this of course does not need to be the same age for all decisions. In Sweden you have a sexual age of consent when you are 15, you can take a drivers license when you are 18, but you aren’t allowed to buy distilled spirits until you are 20. Other countries have other ages, and they are usually quite arbitrary and inconsistent, but they need to be there, because newborn babies have no possibility of understanding any sort of choices in life.

    With freedom comes responsibility, and the ability to take responsibility is not innate and does not appear at birth. Hence we do not give children the same responsibilities and freedoms as adults.

  • Hedonic Treader

    Do teen sex choices limit distant future choices anywhere near as much as do marriage, kids, careers, etc.?

    STDs and teenage pregnancies come to mind.

    I’m not saying kids can resaonably consent; I’m just suggesting that standard theories offer little support for saying they can’t.

    Using terms like “kids” can be misleading since they lack precision. Are we talking about 7yo or 17yo? Depending on whether you start this discussion in Spain (aoc = 13) or California (aoc = 18), terms like “underage” take very different meanings and nuances. Whenever I see such discussions, they usually fail from the start because people use ambigous terms, or politically correct terms that pre-suppose a moral judgment or assumption of harm. Starting the discussion with precise, neutral language would make sense.

    In my view, one crucial point is the ability of law enforcement to distinguish between “true” consent and veiled, subtle forms of coercion in a legally robust manner. It seems to me that this is much harder to do when kids are involved than when adults are involved unless we talk about relatively clear situations and articulate tweens or teens who can make clear statements. The lines are certainly blurry but I would think it’s easier to establish the difference between subtle coercion and “true” consent in court when only adults are involved.

  • Simon Grey

    I think the age of consent exists mostly as a workable rule of thumb. Yes, there are some people who will exceptionally mature at, say, the age of fourteen. There will also be incredibly immature 25-year-olds. Most people, though, will be able to make adult decisions by the age of eighteen. In short, the age of consent exists primarily as a convenient legal shortcut.

  • Robin Hanson

    Michael, why don’t we protect adults from such baggage too?
    Lennart and Hedonic, I offered the concrete age of 13, if that helps to focus our discussion.
    Lennart, why not let kids choose their package of freedom and responsibility?
    Hedonic, if STD and pregnancy were the issue, we might legalize only safe sex. Why is true consent easier to determine for adults than kids?

    • Hedonic Treader

      Hedonic, if STD and pregnancy were the issue, we might legalize only safe sex.

      Yes, possibly, and one would also have to restrict legality to the absense of all dependency relationships such as with teachers, coaches, parents, doctors and whatever other such authority roles may exist. The resulting subset of legal relationships would then be smaller, and a legally robust procedure to determine these conditions for each case could turn out to be a tedious task for law-enforcement and a painful intrusion into the private lives of everyone – unless it is undertaken only rarely, in which case the door is open for abuse and subtle coercion.

      Why is true consent easier to determine for adults than kids?

      Because adults are more articulate on average, and less easy to manipulate by other adults. This is not a given for each individual, but there’s definitely a correlation.

      Lennart and Hedonic, I offered the concrete age of 13, if that helps to focus our discussion.

      Ok, fine. I thought we were discussing the whole range, including smaller kids. I would legalize 13+ without much hesitation. I was molested by a 13yo when I was 5, and his motivation was clear and not externally driven by older people. Consequently, there is no doubt in my mind that pubescent adolescents can have articulate sexual interests. I don’t see a general argument to criminalize them as long as their realization is consensual and responsible. Nevertheless, I see teens that age (and older) do incredibly foolish things all the time, falsely assuming “true, neverending love” etc. Their pleasure and personal liberty are certainly worthwhile, but I’m sure there are certain types of collateral damage in practice.

      An alternative could be a kind of “driver’s licence for sex”. The age of consent could be quite high if younger teenagers (and maybe tweens) could obtain a kind of “maturity certificate” by proving the factual knowledge about STDs, contraception, questions of consent, and related risk factors.

      • Robin Hanson

        Poor and stupid people are also easier to manipulate. Should we presume they can’t consent too?

      • john widmer

        TOO REAL! Actually, people below a certain IQ are considered incapable and it is illegal to fuck them. The funny thing is that threshold still allows very stupid people, male or female, to be used for sex by craft sociopaths, and no one cares because “hey, its the law”.

        The whole thing is based on rigid adherence to law as moral standard rather than actual proven harm or lack of harm, because its much easier to just do that, and to hell with the stupid/naive idiots, teen or adults, who dare break that rule. You go on that sacrificial burn pile.

      • Doug S.

        For a sufficient level of stupidity, we actually do presume they can’t consent.

      • Silas Barta


        Yes, possibly, and one would also have to restrict legality to the absense of all dependency relationships such as with teachers, coaches, parents, doctors and whatever other such authority roles may exist.

        I had actually been thinking about this recently: why stop there, and why only for teenagers? Why not prohibit *adults* from sexual or romantic relationships with policemen (yes, it would mainly be an issue for me, as authority makes them more attractive to women), legislators, presidents, kings, dictators, judges, bureaucrats with significant discretion, wealthy men who can easily afford a hired hit, members of tight-knit fraternity (who can thus use their groups solidarity to make reprisals with impunity), union leaders, top lawyers, etc etc etc?

        After all, if this authority over me limits my ability to truly consent to such a relationship … I guess we don’t want to take *too* seriously the claims of a power imbalance, now, do we?

      • Silas Barta

        Oops! That should read “only be an issue for *men*”, not “for me”.

      • Ty

        “Because adults are more articulate on average, and less easy to manipulate by other adults. This is not a given for each individual, but there’s definitely a correlation.”

        Why should we legislate individual rights based on group correlations?

        Men are on average stronger and more capable of physical labour, does that make it okay to forbid women from manual labour jobs or weightlifting competitions?

        “I was molested by a 13yo when I was 5, and his motivation was clear and not externally driven by older people.”

        If you marginalize the opinions of people under 13, why is your view of this situation as a 5 year old relevant?

        “An alternative could be a kind of “driver’s licence for sex”.”

        Been promoting this idea for half a decade, people dismiss it claiming we would want it to be too easy or easy to cheat on. No idea how that’s a valid objection.

        Licenses for sexual acts make the most sense. It’s the fairest solution.

    • Hedonic Treader

      *Screwed up my last comment’s quotations, sorry.

  • daedalus2u

    The usual standard in law is the “reasonable person”. That means an adult who is not under duress. A child is inherently already under duress simply by virtue of being a child which makes him/her dependent on adults. Children are still undergoing neurodevelopment. They don’t have a fully formed “decision making cognitive structure”. Their cognitive and emotional structures are still developing, they are still plastic and are changed by the experiences the child has.

    Adults having sex with children is extremely damaging to children. Children do not have the emotional and cognitive structures to deal responsibly with issues such as sex. Having sex with an adult changes children in ways that are irreversible, and in ways that try to ensure the survival of the child.

    Children subjected to abuse become provocative. This is a protective mechanism. It allows the child to have the illusion that they are in control. It mitigates the damage of the abuse to some extent. It does not reverse or undo the damage, the behaviors adopted to mitigate the damage are part of the damage (probably the largest part). Children may even believe that they consented to the abuse, that they are responsible for the abuse. The delusion of consent and of responsibility is a survival and protective mechanism. It is yet another factor about being a child that can be (and is) exploited by adults.

    Why don’t we let children trade shares in their future earnings for candy? If children can consent to sex, they can also consent to sell sex in the future. A young enough girl might be persuaded to sell access to her body as an adult for candy, dolls or puppies.

    • Doug S.

      We don’t let adults sell sex either, at least not in most places in the United States.

      • Ty

        If we did, people who would get a raw deal off sex sales would be protected by only allowing sex (and selling it) to those proven mentally competent by passing tests.

    • Ty

      “A child is inherently already under duress simply by virtue of being a child”

      That can be changed by imbuing ‘children’ with adult rights if they demonstrate adult competence.

      “They don’t have a fully formed “decision making cognitive structure”.

      What a ‘fully formed structure’ is should be assessable if it exists, and testable for all.

      “Their cognitive and emotional structures are still developing, they are still plastic and are changed by the experiences the child has.”

      Irrelevant, adults are also plastic and changed by experience.

  • Oliver Beatson

    I can’t imagine anyone at a truly immature age wanting or soliciting penetrative sex, even if sexual arousal gives them pleasure. The point would be then whether or not adults in such a society stick to doing things that they know other people don’t want because they can get away with it.

    Perhaps you could have adults enter a voluntary ‘I will not irresponsibly have sex’ register. Most people would probably join, as not joining would be a bad signal. If a child reported that a member of the club had done something irresponsible, the adult could stand to lose a large amount of money, or even just the reputation that comes with having a negative status on the register.

    I suppose an interesting question to be answered around illegalising child sex acts would be, does this actually maximise liberty in the first place? How much does the illegalisation actually disincentivise doing things to children that they wouldn’t after full knowledge want done? (Although after achieving certain kinds of ‘full knowledge’ I’m sure they’d have some interesting scientific discoveries to announce, by which I mean, no action is optimal to one’s goals, some ‘uninformed’ choices, as all choices fundamentally are, lead us to bad decisions, some to very bad decisions, it’s all relativity around the lack of information.)

    Freedom of informed choice regarding a child’s ‘package’ of liberties and responsibilities seems a good idea, too. Maybe a test could be offered, or we could merely give the full liberties of children to their parents until they wish to pass them down.

    • LeBleu

      Got a weird error posting, so trying again. My apologies if this is a duplicate.

      I can’t imagine anyone at a truly immature age wanting or soliciting penetrative sex, even if sexual arousal gives them pleasure.

      I’m not sure how broadly you define “truly immature age”, but pre-pubescents may solicit it out of curiosity about the experience. Basically they same reason they “play doctor”, only taken a step further. (Assuming they have knowledge of such further steps.) Assuming the resulting experience gives them pleasure, they might even decide to repeat the activity.

      Another consideration is that, in the US under current law, there are cases where both parties can be considered non-consenting due to being under the legal age. This makes little sense to me. I can see where it may make sense to protect people where there really is a large difference between person A’s ability to manipulate and person B’s ability to defend their choices against manipulation. (The difference could be one of age, or as in Doug S.’s example, mental deficiency.) The question is just where those lines should be drawn. Note, this might imply that in a future with super-intelligences, there should be consent laws about what a super-intelligence can contract with an human-level intelligence without violating the lesser’s consent.

      Freedom of informed choice regarding a child’s ‘package’ of liberties and responsibilities seems a good idea, too. Maybe a test could be offered, or we could merely give the full liberties of children to their parents until they wish to pass them down.

      Freedom of informed choice is a nice idea, but if the idea is that people who don’t qualify don’t yet have the cognitive reasoning abilities necessary to responsibly use their liberty, then it does not seem like they would have the cognitive reasoning ability to decide whether they should have that liberty, as some above have implied.

      A test could be a good idea, if you can make it hard enough to cheat the test.

      Leaving it up to the discretion of the parents might be fine in average cases, but could lead to frightening results with abusive or overprotective parents. (Especially if this new way of transfer replaced the traditional 18 year barrier – imagine a 30 year old who’s parents haven’t yet passed down any liberties…)

      • Oliver Beatson

        I’m not sure how broadly you define “truly immature age”, but pre-pubescents may solicit it out of curiosity about the experience.

        By truly immature I meant, young enough to not have any sexual desires whatsoever. I think a lot of children have some level of sexuality even at prepubescent ages, although I think it’s dubious whether penetrative sex would appeal to them as a fun idea at that age. Obviously engaging in something that physically or psychologically damaged a child would be classed as rape. Evolutionarily it’s not impossible that giving children curiosity of experiences at young age is actually beneficial to their mental health, given that they actually do tend to have such curiosity and that prepubscent sexuality can’t directly lead to more children. It could be that young acts of sexuality is a thing that we should want to minimise, but I can see it as easily being a stubborn vestige of religious stigma that we’ve yet to grow out of.

        I can see where it may make sense to protect people where there really is a large difference between person A’s ability to manipulate and person B’s ability to defend their choices against manipulation.

        The problem is deciding who has the right information to make informed choices regarding who has the right information to make informed choices. 😛 Decentralising this seems at least safer than having some less-than-everyone group of people decide universal ages. I think handing liberties to parents is the most consistent idea. It ports well if you know what I mean, and gives more sovereignty to the idea of ownership… you created this out of atoms, it’s yours. But also societal pressure to not be evil with one’s sentient spawn would immediately give way to free market-based assurances that most people can’t have the possibility to be, I believe. Same thing with ownership of pets only it’s slightly less frowned upon to be mean to them. It’s just a case of imagining what we can design; but if the moral majority exists we don’t need centralised rules, the market has its own ways to enforce it.

        Freedom of informed choice is a nice idea, but if the idea is that people who don’t qualify don’t yet have the cognitive reasoning abilities necessary to responsibly use their liberty, then it does not seem like they would have the cognitive reasoning ability to decide whether they should have that liberty, as some above have implied.

        So the problem there is again finding out who we should worry about giving their liberties to.

        Leaving it up to the discretion of the parents might be fine in average cases, but could lead to frightening results with abusive or overprotective parents.

        Utilise some of what I wrote above, I imagine there’d be a large societal demand for boycotts of trade by various types of companies, including for example hospitals, against prospective parents who refuse to precommit to certain conditions. A free market in ages-of-liberty-inheritance, is functionally what I’m imagining would arise. It could easily become standard practice in a hospital that a condition of trade would be the signing of an ‘I promise I’ll give my children their liberties by a decent age unless an arbitrator rules there to be extenuating circumstances’ contract.

      • Ty

        “young enough to not have any sexual desires whatsoever”

        Which would be what? How exactly do we prove that there is any such state?

        “engaging in something that physically or psychologically damaged ”

        That’s not how we judge what rape is with adults, nor should it be here. It should be based on consent that is valid, that is all.

      • Ty

        ” if the idea is that people who don’t qualify don’t yet have the cognitive reasoning abilities necessary to responsibly use their liberty”

        An unproven idea, you can’t prove a negative. We can only prove when people do exhibit the required knowledge.

        Obviously preventing cheating is implied here. The possibility of cheating tests doesn’t mean we should outlaw behaviours. Otherwise nobody would ever drive, practise law or medicine.

  • jseliger

    Yes kids can make mistakes and we might want to limit their ability to make mistakes. But adults can make lots of mistakes too; why treat kids so differently?

    I think the intellectual answer is that there isn’t much, at least once “kids” are teenagers, but the pragmatic / real answer is built-in intergenerational conflict. The “built-in conflict” idea comes partially from Melvin Konner’s The Evolution of Childhood, although he’s mostly dealing with sexual/genetic conflicts in that. In modern society, parents know they’ll bear much of the cost for their teenagers’ misdeeds, in emotional, financial, and social terms, so they encourage laws that restrict teenage autonomy.

    Furthermore, a lot of parents don’t think of their teenage kids as adults, as Paul Graham says in “Lies We Tell Kids:”

    What really bothers parents about their teenage kids having sex? Their dislike of the idea is so visceral it’s probably inborn. But if it’s inborn it should be universal, and there are plenty of societies where parents don’t mind if their teenage kids have sex—indeed, where it’s normal for 14 year olds to become mothers. So what’s going on? There does seem to be a universal taboo against sex with prepubescent children. One can imagine evolutionary reasons for that. And I think this is the main reason parents in industrialized societies dislike teenage kids having sex. They still think of them as children, even though biologically they’re not, so the taboo against child sex still has force.

    So we treat “kids” differently because 1) parents often bear the costs of their mistakes and 2) people don’t think of teenagers as adults.

  • Sister Y

    Excellent topic.

    Children essentially have the legal status of slaves – just with welfare laws protecting them from “serious” abuse and neglect (as with animals). They are not only excluded from making decisions about their bodies, but from any market participation at all (legally – they can’t form binding contracts).

    Imagine if someone could tell you when and what to eat, when to sleep, where to go, what to study, what hours to work, what goals to pursue, what religious beliefs to appear to hold, and what medical attention (if any) to receive. Imagine that person has NO INCENTIVE, aside from the caprices of personal feeling, to respect your values and desires.

    Imagine have no legal recognition of your private being at all.

    Childhood is a serious problem. Adults having sex with children is not so great. But preventing adults from exploiting children by making children slaves is . . . counterintuitive.

    • Ty

      The question is how to protect people other than enslaving them. We can do this by educating them of the resources the government makes available to them to help them protect themselves.

      Adults are expected to be aware of what rape is and how to report it, for example. They’re expected to be knowledgeable of risks associated with acts like sex.

      If a minor can demonstrate adequate knowledge of an area, they should be elevated to adult status in regard to that area.

  • Philo

    _Consent_ is a legal matter, concerning civil awards for damages and criminal punishments. In the case of non-coercive sex, we are to imagine an offer of sexual intercourse made by X to Y, Y’s (apparent) acceptance, and a subsequent sex act between X and Y (one that satisfies the description in the offer, so there is no question of fraud). The issue is, under what circumstances is X legally in the clear–subject neither to criminal penalties nor to liability for damages? In particular, what are the criteria such that Y’s meeting them would indemnify X, legally? This question is only loosely related to the question whether X acted wrongly (in making the offer and, upon the acceptance, in following through with the sex act). Your discussion seemed more focused on the morality–indeed, on the _rationality_–of the offer-cum-sex-act than on what the law should be.

    And some of your remarks seemed dubious. “When someone makes you an offer, it is reasonable to expect them to reveal possible downsides, and even to help you to hear from folks who recommend against accepting their offer.” But why do you need such help? Before accepting an offer, should you help the offerer hear from folks who recommend that he not make the offer? The demand for “help” seems to presuppose a lack of competence on the part of the party receiving the offer. Offering help is often a nice thing to do, but seldom a legal requirement. “If your choice has a big effect on a third party (i.e., parents who’d fund a pregnancy), it can be reasonable to seek their approval.” Maybe, maybe not; it depends on the kind of effect. A company need not seek the approval of a competitor before introducing a new product, even though the introduction will have a big effect on the competitor’s profitability. In any case, the issue of what is “reasonable” takes us out of the legal context that is (or at least that I consider to be) appropriate to the discussion. “And if your choice isn’t very time critical, it is also reasonable to have some time to think it over.“ Again, _unreasonable_ ≠ _illegal_. Should the law provide that some acceptances of offers are invalid until a certain amount of time has passed? That’s a tough question, given the wide variety of situations in which offers are made. The hard-core libertarian answer is a simple negative, but it seems something more nuanced is called for.

    Already for adults it is unclear what should count, legally, as “consent”; the issues concerning children seem even more difficult (though perhaps that impression vanishes when we recall that some adults are incompetent or only semi-competent). It is worth considering both why we treat children legally as we do, and how ideally we ought to treat them. I would expect both answers to be bafflingly complex.

  • Stass

    14 years mother is definitely bad thing. However there is doubt who is responsible for this kind of consequences. I mean in countries parents drink or have to work 12-14h a day the chance (risk) that child is going to have sex in 13 years old is higher. Therefore the legislation protects and keeps adults from using kids. Hence parents are the main people who should take responsibility to protect and keep safe their kids.

    Other thing that we forgot is that 21th century is time of information. Every kid have computers and access to the Internet.Due to awareness of word SEX and consequences they are not afraid to make it even earlier than their parents. There is no limitation for purchasing condoms in shops. Every 13 years old kid and go and buy pack of condoms. I want to say information stimulate as for action, example all exploration ( Columbus, he knew that there is something, so he risk to explore it). The questions is even if they have information they need SEX partner. Tell me when was the first time you start dating, and check what is situation now is schools. I was shock by how fast in Denmark kids start dating. I made comparison with Latvia.

    • Hedonic Treader

      I’m pretty convinced that easy access to information about sex-related topics is good for adolescents, not bad. At least on average. I retrospect, I wish I had had internet access like today at age 12. There are certain risks (cyberbullying etc.), but the benefits are probably much greater. I think it’s just awesome that kids can enter “hot topic words” into wikipedia and gain access to humanity’s full knowledge about them (give or take).

      • Ty

        Cyberbullying’s much easier to avoid than IRL bullying I think, so long as people are educated about it (not giving out too much contact info, avoid making associatable profiles, etc)

        The benefit of information access outweighs it.

    • Ty

      “There is no limitation for purchasing condoms in shops. Every 13 years old kid and go and buy pack of condoms”

      I’m somewhat doubtful about this. Surely if a 5 year old went and tried to buy some condoms there would be issue taken with it. I imagine teens could also face this.

  • Will

    i think that children are persons and should be recognized as such. from there, the problem is consent. what constitutes consent?

    • Ty

      Consent is agreement. The issue should be what constitutes things that modify it such as informedness and coercion or the lack thereof.

  • candy

    No topic that I know of is as prone to causing moral panic as child sexuality. Even media that depicts child sexuality without any actual children involved gets an indignant response.
    Laws and rules about this topic are, IMO, more for the benefit of adults than children. People are very uncomfortable with the thought of their children or young relatives being sexual creatures.
    There’s a similar moral panic about exposing children to “adult” things in movies, games, music, etc. As if a 13 year old is completely innocent to the ideas of sex, drugs or violence…

  • rapscallion

    Does anyone out there wish that they’d been able to have sex with the adults who would have wanted to have sex with them they were prepubescents? Anyone?…Regardless of how you want to define, “consent,” I think the paternalistic rationale behind not allowing kids to have sexual relations is a sound one.

    Admittedly, exactly where to draw the age-of-consent line is a pretty vexing issue, but that it should be postpuberty is clear.

    • Ty

      “Does anyone out there wish that they’d been able to have sex with the adults who would have wanted to have sex with them they were prepubescents?”

      Possibly. You ask an odd question rap, because we don’t necessarily know who those people are, or what their motives are.

      You might as well ask “would you want to have sex today with someone who wants to have sex with you”

      Obviously the answer is going to vary based on who they are, how attracted you are to them, etc.

      Some of the ‘women pedophiles’ I’ve seen chastised in the media looked attractive to me and I would like to (or have liked to in the past) sleep with them. Others are ugly and I would have turned them down.

  • Psychohistorian

    Basically, because the general, non-teen public views teen sex as wholly negative, and teens can’t vote, there is zero incentive for legislators to do anything but decrease the amount of teen sex. One way to do that is through statutory rape laws.

    13 year olds can’t consent because people who can vote don’t want them having sex. Indeed, in California, two 17 year olds having sex are both guilty of a crime. Because people don’t actually care if teenagers are mature enough to consent, the law is not motivated by this question.

    There’s simply a presumption that sex is a Big Deal and that teenagers will be harmed if they do it. What’s funny is that this is largely self fulfilling – because society makes sex a Big Deal, people develop rather serious issues surrounding it. In this case, society is so concerned about the “children” who will consent and later regret it that it has no concern for those who consent and are quite happy with their choice. On the other hand, prosecuting kids for having sex with each other is pretty uncommon, so this policy may work out pretty efficiently in the real world.

  • despair

    The problem is that as a society we’ve defined deviance up and down. On the one hand, we try to restrict sexual relations between elderly men and teenage women that were common and accepted for most of human history, while removing barriers to shame in limiting sexual behavior. Consider that movies and tv and common culture can promote sexualization of children and there is little to be done legally to restrict 15 year olds from sleeping together (whether hetero or homo). There is even very little support for shaming mechanisms to ostracize 14 year olds who choose to have kids. Conversely, the punishments for 22 yr old guys approaching 16 yr old girls are often outrageously disproportionate. And even 30 year olds legally marrying 18 yr olds is often considered “creepy” (a notion which would seem perfectly normal to most of the world’s non Europeanized population). This is such an inversion of human cultural and biological imperatives that blank slate weirdness doesn’t even begin to cover the ways in which this is artificial. I suspect it is also unsustainable in the long run. But hell, the last hundred years has been a testing bed for stupid, counter evolutionary social ideas that have ended in disruption, disappointment, and misery. We’ll see how this one plays out. And in my view, this taboo, DOESN’T match the farmer forager story that Robin often tries to sell.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Robin for posting this.

    There are people like the infamous cryomedical blogger ‘melmax’ who focus on Max’s original words regarding children in the interest of promoting Max’s mishaps and more controversial attributes rather than discussing this topic as the complex, and not straightforward issue that it is.

  • JasonSL

    Psychohistorian: There’s simply a presumption that sex is a Big Deal and that teenagers will be harmed if they do it. What’s funny is that this is largely self fulfilling – because society makes sex a Big Deal, people develop rather serious issues surrounding it.

    Exactly. It’s a practice of the Sambia people of New Guinea for pre-coming-of-age boys to fellate men in their community, as a means of imbibing their manliness. This doesn’t cause the boys to develop the mental problems that it would in the West, and, indeed, even a Western child who is induced by whatever means to perform fellatio on an adult ought to date their injury to when they lose their innocence and learn that this is shameful and abusive (assuming no STDs are transmitted) rather than to the act itself.

    That said, we can’t deny the cultural reality here in the West, and say that our laws ought to pretend we have a less neurotic view of childhood sexuality.

    • Ty

      Why should we be legislating based on the impact of culturally-imbued neuroticism though?

      Why not instead outlaw parents and teachers who abuse children by imparting neurotic belief systems to them?

  • JasonSL

    Incidentally, my recollection is that studies that have looked at post-pubescent minor boys in the U.S. who have had sexual relations with adult women found no difference in mental health outcomes between these boys and boys who had no pre-age-of-majority sexual relations with adult women. Since there are equal protection problems with saying that post-pubescent minor boys can consent to sex with adult women, but not with adult men, and that post-pubescent minor girls can’t consent to sex with anyone, it seems that we’re putting the cart before the horse if we try to decide what kinds of sexual encounters involving minors are no less harmful than sexual encounters between adults and allow minors to give consent in those situations. Really what we ought to do is the far more difficult work of reforming the culture, which, indirectly, posts and discussions like this are doing.

  • Buck Farmer

    Here’s an expansion of Robin’s subspecies argument…

    1. Beginning sex, marriage, childrearing after you’re 20 is an evolutionarily novel phenomenon. In earlier societies/cultures, you start childbearing when you can start childbearing (Romeo and Juliet, etc.)

    2. Regardless of evolutionary optimality, early childrearing is no longer optimal from a status/wealth competition standpoint in our current society.

    Ergo, children/young-adults who have not yet been properly conditioned to understand the novel regime will mistakenly begin childbearing at the historically evolutionarily optimal time and thus reduce the value of their parents’ investment in them.

    A mere conjecture.

    • Ty

      True, there’s no reason to assume people will begin childbearing simply because they’re legally allowed to have sex. We could even outlaw childbearing until a certain age. Not inherently linked behaviours.

  • agnostic

    We either support or decry teenage sex depending on what the teenagers themselves are doing. When they’re getting wilder, we want to be part of the excitement (vicariously anyway) and defend their liberation. When they’re getting tamer, we still want to jump on the bandwagon and defend their fogey-fication.

    Youth sexual activity in general, and especially the more extreme forms like having had 4+ partners by high school, having sex before 13, getting pregnant or having a kid, etc., peaked in the late ’80s or early ’90s and has been plummeting since. (See the Youth Risk Behavior Survey online, and pregnancy / birth data by googling.)

    So your friend’s initial championing of minor consent in 1983 and post-1990 backpedaling fits that pattern.

  • ThreeTimesFast

    This is a really interesting argument, and I think it brings up an even better point – why do we still persist on having such absurdly high age requirements to view pornography?

    We are all aware that adolescents explore their sexuality, masturbate, and even have sex, and yet we insist on denying them access to porn until they become legal adults. This leads to some really strange conclusions – it is legal for adolescents in many places to have sex with another but not to view other people having sex, while in some places it is legal to have sex with a 16- or 17-year-old but not to show them pornography.

    What is the harm that it could cause? It could mislead inexperienced adolescents about sex, but the best alternative to that seems to be to allow better sex education to debunk those claims. On the other hand, porn also helps to facilitate a more mature appreciation of sex: society tries to protect adolescents from the emotional consequences of sex by telling them only to have sex with those they love while accidentally reinforcing that very belief by making those same adolescents believe that if someone has sex with them they must love them. Porn presents an alternate view – sometimes, people have sex just for fun without any great emotional ramifications. Porn also allows them a safe place to explore their sexualities without having to deal with the possible consequenes of STDs and pregnancy.

    There’s this idea that if children experience sex they will be shocked and damaged by it, and while this may be true regarding sexual abuse, I’m not entirely sure how a twelve-year-old looking at a picture of a naked person is supposed to hurt them. At worst, they’ll find it yukky and click out of it. (I suppose if they had been abused it could be triggery, but children aren’t the only people who are able to have triggery sexual experiences.)

    This is especially strange because of how little effect these laws now have given the internet and all. Any child without a child protecting program on their computer (or any child with one and a good idea how to turn it off) can easily find access to pornography. And yet how often are people actually prosecuted for this? We as a society seem increasingly frantic about stopping this happening despite the fact that we clearly have little idea how to.

    Really, a lot of it seems to be more because of this moral panic that it will lead to children having sex more (despite that, as I said above, it could lead to the exact opposite) or parents very uncomfortable with the idea of children being sexual beings at all and trying to vainly deny that they are despite all evidence to the contrary.

    • Waaaaa

      I fully agree with you. Shaming sex and not educating children can only lead to them beig more easily manipulated because of the lack of experience.
      I think we need to teach children, openly, that sex is natural and normal, while also teaching them about its harms and benefits. Not just sex, but also masturbation, touching, attraction, etc.
      If they, from a young age, learn that sexuality is a right and pleasurr, instead of it being this adults-only thing, then they, from a very young age, will feel empowered and educated enough to consent or reject.

  • JL

    Robin, I think you are a little bit too biased towards near/far and status explanations 😉

    The two separate questions you ask are:
    1) Why do we limit the choices of kids?
    2) Can kids consent?

    The answer to the first is trivial: we limit their choices, because we (the lawmakers and the courts) have decided they can’t consent (specifically, 13 year olds can’t consent to sex with adults).
    It has nothing to do with near/far or status, the actual reasoning is thoroughly documented in the legal literature and you have briefly touched some of them.

    You may suspect that this reasoning is mere rationalizing and that the real reasons are near/far and status, but I find that difficult to accept.

    Your attempts to rebut (or question) the usually given reasons seem to fail:

    1) Kids don’t fully understand the implications of their actions.

    Robin: Neither do adults

    Response: True, but they do (on average) have a better understanding and they have had more time to learn.
    In an ideal society people would be able to perform an action if and only if they fully understood the implications of that action.
    But in the real world we need to rely on imperfect approximations of this ideal.

    2) Limiting the ability to make mistakes

    Robin: Adults also make mistakes.

    Response: Yes, but adults better understand the risks that lead to mistakes; adults are more capable of carrying the consequences of their mistakes without burdening society; and preventing adults from making mistakes is difficult and costly (see prohibition, war on drugs).

    3) Thirteen year olds can’t consent to sex with adults

    Robin: I can not see why that is so, but I also can’t prove it isn’t so.

    Response A: If we can not know one way or the other then we will need to make a wager. In the form of Pascal’s wager we can argue that we should assume they can’t consent, since preventing rape has higher utility than that lost by repressing sex between minors and adults.

    Response B: Lawmakers and courts have apparently decided that thirteen year olds can’t consent to sex with adults. To change this status quo you will need to convincingly argue that they are wrong.

    Response C would be to argue that thirteen year olds can’t consent to sex with adults, which I won’t do here in the interest of time.

    • PJF

      since preventing rape has higher utility than that lost by repressing sex between minors and adults.

      Just curious, how many acts of consensual sex between adults would you be willing to eliminate in order to prevent one instance of rape?

    • Ty

      Response C isn’t done because it CAN’T be done. Response B is silliness, laws should always have logic supporting the law or be abolished. It should not be up to others to falsify legal claims that were never proven to begin with. Otherwise people could legislate ‘god exists, pray to him or the world will be destroyed’ and people could not falsify it.

      Response A has you relying on a wager which is clearly irrational in its origins. It leads to a false comparison as if we actually knew the weight that sexual oppression has and could quantify it to compare with the weight that rape has.

  • Aris Katsaris

    The Near and Far model applied *again*? Really?? Are you frigging kidding us?

    A largely good article, ruined by that totally unjustified last paragraph, which makes you look as if you have a hammer you really really like and so all problems become nails.

    Start overcoming *your* bias in favour of that model, mate.

    We don’t trust kids with their own choices, because we are designed to want to protect them instead. Because societies that didn’t protect their kids, didn’t survive. This has nothing to do with “near” or “far”. It’s simple natural selection. We’re designed to want to protect our offspring, more than we’re designed to respect their choices.

    Simple as that.

    • Ty

      There are evolutionary advantages to respecting children’s choices and giving them access to education to gain the capacity to make them with more informed mindsets.

      • john widmer

        There’s also evolutionary advantages to not respecting their choices either, and forcing them into sex.

        appeal to evolution isn’t a really good argument, except for showing that mother nature doesn’t care about morals or ethics.

        However, it is likely that certain behaviors, having been socially acceptable for a long time, may be more moral than behaviors which have never been acceptable. Age of consent laws started in the 1200’s, but by that time rape was already against the law, as was murder. Both were punished. Age of consent law was created so the underage didn’t have to show use of force to accuse someone of raping them. It wasn’t about saying they were de-facto victim.

        So while rape was always against the law, this is more recently against the law, meaning it may not be nearly as bad as actual rape, or murder.

  • daedalus2u

    Post pubescent minor boys who have sex with adult women are injured. There are degrees, the boys involved might not feel they have been injured, they may become attached to the adult women they have had sex with (some may even become addicted and pathologically attached). The original post was about someone who wrote (at age 18) that people that age and younger are ready to consent to sex, now many years later he says his earlier self was completely wrong.

    A boy who is abused by an adult woman and grows up to become a man who is a player might not feel that he has been injured, but if he hadn’t been abused, he might have grown up to have long term relationships, fall in love, have a family, been more successful, have better mental health. His sexual and emotional development might not have been stunted by early sex with an adult.

    From the comments, I think that few people here have experience with the consequences of child sexual abuse.

    Trying to measure these harms is quite difficult, and necessitates a value judgment. Many victims of childhood sexual abuse feel quite injured and have life-long difficulties as a consequence. Many times those harms do not show up until much later, sometimes not until the victim has children of his/her own of the age he/she was at the time of the victimization.

    Some of the people who are harmed are greatly harmed. Some of the victims of the Catholic clergy sex abuse committed suicide. How many suicides are acceptable for children to be allowed to have sex with adults?

    • Hedonic Treader

      Post pubescent minor boys who have sex with adult women are injured.

      Empirical evidence?

      Trying to measure these harms is quite difficult, and necessitates a value judgment.

      Confirmation bias?

      A boy who is abused by an adult woman and grows up to become a man who is a player might not feel that he has been injured, but if he hadn’t been abused, he might have grown up to have long term relationships, fall in love, have a family, been more successful, have better mental health.

      Let’s try to avoid tautological definitions of “harm” with regards to a normative relationship model that is not universally shared and not necessarily indicative of subjective quality of life. The reasonable step here would be to actually compare factors such as career success, mental health, or family status with control groups that had no such sexual encounters. Without robust empirical data, these claims are pointless conjecture.

      Many victims of childhood sexual abuse feel quite injured and have life-long difficulties as a consequence… How many suicides are acceptable for children to be allowed to have sex with adults?

      Statistical decorrelations of age, violence, coercion, dependency, social stigma? Comparisons with suicide rates of non-sexualized control groups?

      This is what I meant when I wrote most of these debates fail from the outset because of pre-supporting judgments and assumptions of harm independent of any empirical assessment. Of course, you’re right to point out that harm can be hard to empirically test. But then what’s the value of the discusssion? A proponent of teenage liberty may simply claim the opposite of what you claim, and then you can run in rhetorical circles.

    • Sister Y

      Your comments relating to future social consequences of people with early sexual debuts seem to me to relate to an old post of Robin’s, “Overconfidence & Paternalism.”

      When we “protect” children, we prevent them from having access to information and experiences. We may justify doing so in order to promote a particular notion of the good life (“have long term relationships, fall in love, have a family, been more successful, have better mental health” in your words).

      We lie to them and lock them up for their own good. But really, it’s for our own good – our conception of the good. All your examples are euphemisms for pursuing a particular kind of life that may, in fact, be very immoral by some standards. Mutual sexuality output contracts, reproduction, achieving high social status, and behaving in a predictable manner do not seem to me to be goals so universally honorable that they justify denying 13-18-year-olds control of their own bodies.

    • Ty

      “Post pubescent minor boys who have sex with adult women are injured”

      Strong proof right here, I’m convinced. loool

      Assuming there are ‘injuries’ in 100% of cases, I’d love to see how it’s established that it’s the act itself and not society being “OMG SO WRONG U R RUINED” which results in the trauma.

    • john widmer

      A post pub boy that has sex with their teen girlfrend can experience the exact same things. So we should be locking up teen girls as well.

  • daedalus2u

    Many individuals who were sexually abused do consider that they have been grievously injured, and many individuals have won large monetary settlements to compensate them for those injuries after litigating those cases in court. Do you dispute that? That does demonstrate serious injury, so seriously that damages were awarded by a court.

    Do you have any data to support the notion that early sex with adults is not harmful to children? There happens to be no ethical way to acquire such data because the consensus among experts is that it is incredibly harmful and so no such research would ever be allowed.

    Because many children have been grievously injured, the default should be that any child may be grievously injured, and that society has the right and obligation to protect potentially vulnerable individuals from exploitation that may grievously harm them.

    I don’t think it is ok to lie to children about anything, including sex.

    I don’t think anyone is suggesting that children be criminally prosecuted for engaging in sex with adults. It is the adults who would be prosecuted. The children are victims. The children are free to engage in sex with adults. The children won’t be punished, it is the adults who will be punished and go to jail. Legalizing children having sex with adults doesn’t give children any more rights than they have now, it only gives adults the right to sexually exploit them with no repercussions.

    • Hedonic Treader

      Just some quick points to end my participation in the discussion:

      Do you have any data to support the notion that early sex with adults is not harmful to children?

      Notice how you now refer to “children” where you earlier referred to “Post pubescent minor boys” – I already mentioned that I don’t think there can be a meaningful discussion on such a “hot topic” without the necessary precision. To answer your question: it makes general sense to me that those who would criminalize private behavior can be expected to carry the burden of proof, even though in this case status quo bias may make this counterintuitive. I’m not an expert on developmental psychology, but I would be surprised if empirical science could reliably support the hypothesis “Post pubescent minor boys who have sex with adult women are injured.”

      There happens to be no ethical way to acquire such data because the consensus among experts is that it is incredibly harmful and so no such research would ever be allowed.

      Empirical science can be done without deliberate experimentation. Gathering statistical data on existing cases and identifying correlations is one obvious way. The law is not always abided by, and there are countries with differing age of consent limits. Your hypothesis can certainly be tested using this data.

    • scott

      Out of how many individuals who have had sex as a minor and don’t consider themselves sexually abused or greviously injured? If the fraction is small, then your second paragraph looks like “there is expert consensus that harmful things are harmful” and says nothing about whether this thing is harmful or not.

      Abuse can happen in any sexual relationship. I don’t think the rate is higher in post-pubescent, below-age-of-consent sexual relationships. Of course, if the only cases your experts are looking at are cases of sexual abuse in below-age-of-consent sexual relationships, it’s no wonder they think it’s a bad thing. Experts who only look at cases of rape would probably think sex is a bad thing.

      • Ty

        Such studies fail to distinguish between cases of rape (rape-rape, as Whoopie Goldberg puts it) and consensual acts (even if the consent’s not legally recognized).

        Due to that, it’s a biased sample and the data is not admissible.

        It also fails to establish as cause-relationship because there are other factors correlated with such events (such as harassment from others regarding the events, harsh prejudice, separation anxiety, etc) which can also upset victims.

      • disqus_8YUJmSPds0

        so you are saying that children can consent to sex, you are perverted. that is all

      • john widmer

        I suppose when I had sex when I was underage, I was victim of my underage girlfriend. Or perpetrator. Or maybe both, by your mind?

  • daedalus2u

    If you would weigh in on such “hot topics”, perhaps you should acquire some expertise in them. To those of us who do know something about it, it is not at all a close call.

    That non-experts feel something is counterintuitive tells us something about the intuition of non-experts.

    • Hedonic Treader

      Thanks for the links. I won’t purchase the full articles but it is noteworthy the abstracts make no statement about the age ranges of the examined minors, nor about decorrelating factors such as coercion, consent, incest etc. At least they mention controlling for family background using twin studies, that’s a good start. OTOH, they start with “Childhood sexual abuse (CSA) is a worldwide problem” which is like saying “Rape is a worldwide problem” when examining the long-term effect of sex between adults. Duh.

      Do these studies even examine the questions we raised? I can’t tell from the abstracts.

    • daedalus2u

      Both articles are available for free download, one from the publisher. If you search the title for the other one into google scholar it will show up.

      What the data shows is many similarities between the adult lives of men and women associated with the effects of childhood sexual abuse. Men who were abused by a female perpetrator have rates of depression twice that of men who were not abuse. Suicide attempts are about twice as high too.

      The data is sparse, but it shows real harm. Maybe not everyone is harmed, but anything that doubles the suicide attempt rate, or doubles the rate of depression is real harm.

      • Robin Hanson

        Would you be willing to prevent kids from choose a career (e.g., acting or music), if that could be shown to double the rate of later depression as well? Top ten depressed careers here.

      • Ty

        Pretty sure there are elevated rates of depression for being homosexual or transgender too.

        I imagine we can also find them for being short, and men have higher rates of suicide than women.

        People seem to mix up correlation with causation.

      • daedalus2u

        Interesting list. Those jobs seem to be essential services that people want to do because it helps other people, or creates something and not “just a job” that makes money. The depression seems to come from the stress of not having the resources to do their job properly and getting burned out.

        They didn’t list the job that has the highest suicide rate, that would be ex-soldier.

        Interesting that 20% of US suicides are veterans. That is about 6,000 per year. The deaths from suicide may well exceed combat deaths by a large amount, even from Vietnam.

        I happen to know a lot about the physiology of depression (this is an enormous understatement). The major cause is stress, usually psychosocial stress but metabolic stress can cause it too (that is what postpartum depression comes from). Effectively dealing with that stress can be difficult, especially when many are simply unwilling to recognize that the stress exists at all (ignoring bullying for example).

        It isn’t the job that causes the stress and the depression (except maybe for being a soldier in a war zone), it is the work environment. A bad work environment, one with bullying, harassment, exploitation, low pay and lots of psychosocial stress is more conducive to depression than a non-stressful work environment. There are multiple effective treatments for depression. I think that if a job does cause depression, that the job should also pay enough to get effective treatment to prevent and/or treat that depression.

        I think requiring work environments to be such that they don’t foster depression in workers would be a better solution to depression among workers than having fewer workers in those jobs. For many of the jobs in the list, fewer workers will result in greater stress on the remaining workers, for example if there were fewer teachers, health care workers, social workers, the need for those services doesn’t go down, the remaining workers have to work that much harder.

        The for-profit business system isn’t set up to have non-exploitive working conditions except through regulation. The cheapest source of labor is people who want to do the work and get satisfaction out of doing a good job. The satisfaction of doing the job well partially substitutes in their utility function for wages. The satisfaction can be thought of as “good will”. That “good will” can be liquidated by compelling more work under more difficult conditions. The most competitive CEO will hire workers with a lot of “good will” and then liquidate that “good will” by exploiting them and then replacing them when their “good will” has been liquidated.

        If companies did have to pay for depression treatments for their workers, I think they would find that prevention via good working conditions is much cheaper than treatment. Companies good to work for already know that. That is something that makes good companies take-over targets by those willing to liquidate the “good will” that the company has built up, such as what happened to Simmons.

    • Ty

      Strong ‘argument from authority’ there deadalus. Unfortunately ‘expertise’ in vague areas like this really cannot be demonstrated readily as it can in hard sciences (which actually have results and specific controls for experiments).

      People become “experts” by knowing what rhetoric to parrot based on the consensus of a group that inherited power from groups originally established based on preconceived facts.

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  • Michael Keenan

    I just read about a case where a UK court banned a retarded man from having sex because he didn’t understand it sufficiently to consent. The article noted:

    Mr Justice Mostyn highlighted the fact that the court cannot prevent people from merely making “unwise” decisions, and that a simple test can be carried out to see if a person is capable of consenting to sex based on the act itself rather than the proposed partner.

    There’s a simple test for ability to consent? At last, I thought, we figured out how to measure that. Hanson will be pleased to know that there are now analytical tools available to measure consent-ability. So I followed the link to the court order to find out what this test is. There’s discussion of various tests and standards, and the judge ultimately concludes:

    I therefore conclude that the capacity to consent to sex remains act-specific and requires an understanding and awareness of:
    * The mechanics of the act
    * That there are health risks involved, particularly the acquisition of sexually transmitted and sexually transmissible infections
    * That sex between a man and a woman may result in the woman becoming pregnant

    So, we of course have analytical tools for determining the ability to consent. It’s just that we’re not using them for determining the age of consent. We’re deciding that with some other process.

    I wonder whether it might be feasible to offer a compromise between the people who like a high age of consent, and those who don’t see a need for that. You could have the age of consent as a default for everyone, but those under that age could opt to take the consent test and get a sex license proving they have the ability to consent.

    • Ty

      It isn’t possible to use these tools to determine an ‘age of consent’ michael. These tools can determine the ‘capacity to consent’ in specific individuals. That capacity can vary amongst those of an identical age, just as ages can vary amongst those with identical capacities.

      There should only be a ‘status of consent-ability’ and it should be specific to various kinds of acts, and everyone should have to earn that status and carry a license to reflect that to prove to others that they have it before engaging in actions.

      We have different licenses for different kinds of motorized vehicles (motorbikes, cars, trucks, large buses, air brakes) and different kinds of careers (practising law, medicine, etc) so we can do that for sexual acts too. Perhaps also drugs such as cigarettes or alcohol.

  • Ban

    You are very correct Hanson, we never fully understand the full consequences of our actions. The important thing here is to make sure that one party must not try to trick the other.

    There is a demonization of sex by media. And they use pseudosciences to “prove” that sex is harmful Social and Behavioral sciences are not science. Just hear Richard Feynman for that matter.

  • Ty

    “If someone lacks understanding of what they are getting into, they may have agreed but have not consented. Consent requires agreement after thoughtful consideration”

    I don’t agree with this. I view the verbs ‘agree’ and ‘consent’ as synonyms. The nouns ‘agreement’ and ‘consent’ also as synonyms.

    People affix artificially less inclusive definitions on these words which are wrong. It is one thing to define ‘legally admissible consent’ based on what a locality gives legal weight, but affixing adjectives is completely necessary to give context as to how consent is being restrictively interpreted as a word. We should never redefine words in languages solely based on how localized law uses them.

    All consent is done with ‘thoughtful consideration’. Short of utterly ignoring the words someone is asking you, you can’t consider the reply (in whatever capacity) and give a response without engaging in thought. Engaging in thought IS consideration.

    The critical distinction here would be what thoughts people have. We expect people with education on matters and issues to have more complex and realistic thoughts about matters. That is the issue of ‘informed consent’ and what is important here. Adjectives are important.

    Even a horse can ‘consent’ by stomping it’s foot or presenting it’s flank. Consent, like agreement, is originally a very inclusive term which we should only make exclusive through appropriate adjectives, not redefining it and ignoring it’ broad etymology.

  • Joe Jones

    PLEASE read this!

    I truly believe that there is a capitalist conspiracy to strip human beings of their chance to be simple and happy by preventing them from letting children realise their sexuality, in order to force them into a world of commerce, and work for monopolies which profit the 1%

    – Capitalism requires indoctrination; this inculcates people with the desire to do such things as: enlist in the army, become a mechanic, attend University, and so on, when they otherwise would not wish to – because, let’s face it, why would you?

    – Human beings have a natural love of nature, and though they might not be driven in their day-to-day lives by the direct pursuit of pleasure, they are on a larger scale only interested in it: thus an ideological framework has to be created to direct them to certain activities, in order to serve the interests of the elite

    – If children were allowed to be sexual, they would not fall into the trap of associating their chances of pleasure with a capitalist framework; indeed, it would be much easier for them to live a simple, natural life, with sex as a reliable source of pleasure

    – Instead, children’s sexuality is censored until the age of 16, by which time they have fallen into the capitalist system – in thought if not in deed – which exploits their labour power and sends profits to an elite

    – An ideological campaign with confutes child abuse, child misery, and child cruelty with child sexualty saturates our culture and reinforces the message that any sexualisation of children is abusive

    – Despite this, children are sexual; they have sexual thoughts and sexual desires: for as long as we project onto them – which we do – the subtle hints that sex is wrong and bad, by flinching every time they ask something sexual or avoiding talking about it around them, they will not be able to realise themselves as sexual beings

    People only need food and drink and warmth as well as company; what are we working towards with all our stupid industries?

    Personally, I believe the long journey we all go on in our lives really just involves us getting over the lies we have been told when we were young. If children weren’t repressed, they would, at 18, emerge like our wisest people are at age 80.

    Of course, if this was the way of the world, then there would be no super rich, because people would live off their own land, have simple lives, and enjoy the highest form of pleasure in sex. I mean, think about it, what are rollercoasters but an attempt to simulate sexual pleasure, but in a way that profits OTHER people? What is anything in this WORLD but an attempt to achieve that sexual pleasure which, if we got into the habit of doing when we were young, we could ACTUALLY realise instead of trying to replicate???

    We pay people to allow us to have something CLOSE to sexual pleasure, when it is actually FREE to just have sex with each other!!!

    Listen, if I ever believed that sex with a child or among children REALLY damaged them, I wouldn’t want it to be legalised, and I certainly wouldn’t be trying to convince people that it isn’t evil. But I don’t believe that. I really, truly, honestly don’t. I’m 19 and I remember being sexual when I was a child, but feeling like I couldn’t talk about it. And now I look to the future and it seems like all I have ahead of me is a horrible job doing things I hate. It makes me WISH that my family just owned a bit of land I could work on to get food, either from plants or animals, a well or a river nearby where I could get water and fish, and then just NATURE and FRIENDS to have fun with. We could still have a few factories and things to make life easier, but time in them would be voluntary, and we could turn them on when we wanted, if we truly NEEDED something, instead of having this dual system where you make as many things as possible, and then try to convince people that they need them, and that life is empty without them. Because that way, it becomes so. We live under a system of capitalistic ideological warfare, censoring avenues to real happiness and directing us towards ways of living that profit the 1%.

    • Jacqui

      Do you still believe this, 2 years after writing? Im not judging im just interested.

      • Hedo

        I kind of agree with him when he talks about capitalism, 1% and natural needs, but I’m not as confident as him behind defining “real happiness” because of the hedonistic treadmill. I just wish someone could argue me out of this hopeless mindset. Because, truthfully, I believe this is a doomed way of thinking that doesn’t bring happiness but only lead to despair.

    • HumbleAllMighty

      I can definitely see this as a possibility.

    • Aaliyah Turnage

      Do you mean when a kid wants sex, that it is okay? Or that we shouks all just have sex withkids, no matter what?

  • Amelia Locket

    What is this world coming to when kids should be concentrating on their homework but they more concerned about on having sex… Whatever happened to preserving childlike innocence? Giving sexual pleasure is in no way the same thing as giving candy or toys; sex carries far too many health risks then a child can understand or even know about, such as STDs or if they’re old enough and are female, pregnancy. The risks of pregnancy increases as the child continues to have casual sex for the duration of her childhood as her body develops. Or does society now approve of 12 year old’s getting pregnant?
    Saying that it’s their own life is never a justifiable reason, because the effects of one’s actions will always carry over to someone close to them. In this case, it’s the parents. Any parent hates to see their child leave for college at 18, so what makes anyone think they’ll agree to see their child having sex at 10 or even younger?
    It’s true that some children are more mentally prepared than others, but that in no way means that they are physically prepared enough. Children most likely will not recognize this physical immaturity, and that’s why they should not be put in charge of their own bodies.
    Lastly, as almost every sex ed class teaches, sex before marriage degrades marital sex, like giving your future partner pre-chewed gum instead of an unopened packet. Yes, this last paragraph doesn’t particularly support casual sex before marriage, so go ahead and bash it just for that.

    • RandallPoopenmeyer

      Sex had nothing to do with innocence.

  • Shadowwraith

    So, the law can say a 10yr old is perfectly competent to stand trial as an adult for murder but, cannot legally be defined competent enough to engage in adult sexual behavior? So, society and the law are seriously full of nothing more than bigots, dictators and, two faced manipulators! Either they are adults or, they are not! You cannot sit there and, have it as both ways!

  • Todd

    I have told no one of this so be curious and understand ill tell you a bit about me. When I was 7 years of age and my friends parents had me bath with my other 7 year old friend. At that time we bathed often to save WATER I had no desire for sex but then my friend persuaded me to have oral sex because it’s what adults do and it’s on pornography. Thinking I was smart as a kid I can do anything. I DIDNT KNOW ABOUT SEX so I assumed it was all a game. But for some reason I couldn’t tell anyone about it I thought it to wierd talk, (kids thought): People sucking each other’s skin weird I shouldn’t talk about that.

    Then I distinctly remember I was in the playground, I looked at a boy & girl hold hands & my mind said: I have no felling for either one, what path will I choose when I’m older, Why is it wrong.
    Not to mention I woke up in the mornings and had this heavy burden in my head saying you need to die. All this has caused me many problems to this day. Due to the way my mind patterned out over my childhood.

    To top it off I was bullied repeatedly in school & high school because I had a lisp with makes much more mental strain due to these actions. I have a lot of memories on the way I felt in moments as a kid and how i thought but sadly I feel out of place with everyone & I will never be happy.

    • qwertyhnmkopl

      Telling yourself you will never be happy is unhelpful. You have to start thinking positively. You will be happy.

  • Ash

    Alright, well I’ll give my thoughts here. When I was 13 years old I was in an inappropriate relationship with a 20 year old (he went to my church and was an youth ministries intern during a few summers, so he did camp counselor/youth leader type shit. I was involved in the youth programs and stuff so that’s where I met him). We never did anything sexual, but I was extremely sexually attracted to this person (as well as just being very infatuated, and I really really looked up to this person a lot) and would have enjoyed that thoroughly. Essentially, this person was aware of my attraction to them and thought it was entertaining, so they encouraged it. They did provide me sexual pleasure in minor ways (although it was a big deal to be at the time), such as inappropriately long and close hugs. It went on for about 8 months.


    This relationship fucked me up. I’m almost 20 myself now and that made the worst kind of lasting impression on me. Things that I can’t undo. I don’t know if how it’s affect my brain is permanent, but it’s at the very least indefinite, and if I have any hope of fixing any of that, I certainly am going to have to go to therapy (at the moment I’m very apprehensive, given bad experiences with therapists many times, and extreme difficulties talking about what happened and what I’ve dealt with because of it). I can’t even get across the extent to which that affected me without making everyone uncomfortable, because some of it’s really weird.

    The greatest problems I’ve had as a result of what happened are as follows.
    It has had a very big effect on me sexually. It appears that due to the time in my brain development, the other person being the first person I was sexually attracted to, and the first person I got to interact with in a way that was sexually arousing, and the potency of the experience, they’ve almost been… Like, burned into my brain… It’s super weird to talk about. But it’s like they made their traits what I find most sexually attractive. I have before listed off what I find sexually attractive without even thinking of them, and realize that I’m describing them perfectly.
    I’ve had this weird fixation upon it all this time, that won’t go away. I can’t stop going over it in my mind, I’m fixated on the sort of “themes” present in the relationship and the experience. And I really fucking hate it. I hate it so much. I don’t know how to undo it, but god I wish I could.
    Along with that, when our brains experience two things at once, they get wired together. Our brains are association machines. And if it’s your first time experiencing something, those associations have a lot higher likely hood of being permanent. You know how sometime the things you pictured the first time you listened to a song always play though your head whenever you listen to that song again? Now take something as intense and hardwired as sexual arousal. There are things relating to that relationship that are now linked with sexual arousal in my brain. I have some weird as shit sexual fixation on stuff…. It’s fucked up. Ever watch American Horror Story: Asylum? How bloody face (and his son) has weird sexual shit about mothers and stuff? It’s like that. Minus being insane and a serial killer. Just the sexual part. But yeah, it’s that fucked up. I feel super weird and ashamed about it, and I can’t undo it…
    There’s more, like emotional shit and whatever, but there’s no need for me to go into more detail.

    I’m really pissed off about what happened. I’m really pissed off that this person selfishly decided to fuck around with my head because it was entertaining, and now I’m the one stuck with this shit. I’m pissed of because it could have so easily been avoided. The feelings I initially had for this person were normal, and absolutely developmentally appropriate, and left alone to be experienced in a developmentally appropriate way are actually a healthy thing to experience. And that’s essentially what was wrong here. It wasn’t developmentally healthy. Around this same age I “dated” other kids my own age, and those were good experiences. They taught us about relationships and the feelings involved gradually, with nothing involved causing us lasting damage. So I’m pissed off that something that could have so easily stayed this developmentally healthy and appropriate crush, that should have stayed that way, was instead fucked with by someone who had no business doing so. I went into that so naively and mindlessly, simply because I frankly hadn’t come very far in brain development. I could have never known what kind of lasting effect that would have on me. There’s stuff I don’t think I’ll ever be able to undo.

    And we didn’t even have sex or do any sex things. I willingly would have, and would have enjoyed it. But that would have made what already was going to fuck me up enough even worse, probably much worse.

    As an adult, and as one that has such an impression upon a young adolescent that they would want to have sex with you, you have a whole fuck ton of power in that situation, how much you can affect that person. Brains at that age are still a lot more malleable than adult brains, a lot more prone to being permanently affected by something, and they sure as hell don’t know that (at my age, I could never have really understood. If I was told anything I’d be like, “pffffft, I’ll be fine”. I was still very simple minded compared to now. I still consider my state of mind to me more childlike at that age, with a notable shift in maturity not taking place until around 15 years old, still not then of adult maturity, but I don’t consider that to be part of my childhood after that point. I’m not sure how anyone can age from early adolescence into adulthood and not realize the difference in maturity. For me it was vast.) With what power you have to permanently affect someone at a young age, I absolutely believe it’s an adults responsibility not to involve themselves with that kids sexuality, even if it’s as minor as encouraging it, procuring attention from that kid that makes their attraction to you evident, because you weirdly find it entertaining.

    I just want to drive home the point that wanting something is not the only thing needed for it not to be harmful. I see that argument made disturbingly often. Sexuality and sexual pleasure is very different from other things. It’s a very complicated thing, and a big fucking deal in our brains, hardwired there from millions of years of evolution. It should be seen in just how obsessed with sex we are, in good ways and bad, how many weird attitudes towards it have developed culturally, how sensitive a subject it is. It’s not a minor thing, and in relation to this conversation, a developing sexuality being responded in a developmentally inappropriate way can have great consequences. Why exactly those things are developmentally unhealthy, I don’t know. All I know is that from experience, and hearing the experience of others, that they are, my hypothesis being it has to do with brain development, and how an individuals sexuality plays into that and whatnot, then with the power imbalance that comes with someone being an adult and another a kid, there is a greater mental influence on the kid than if they were to have the same experience as a peer they were an equal to. That’s at least my experience. The adult I was involved with had a much greater affect on me than the people my own age I was involved with. Who the fuck knows why, some neurological shit. The point is that there are serious risks involved beyond the whole pregnancy and std stuff, and when you have the ability to affect somebody that way, you have a responsibility to not involve yourself. I desperately wish that the person I was involved with had just ignored me and let me fantasize about them from afar, even though I wanted it, and more. That was me being taken over by extremely intense feelings and lack of brain development to come anywhere close to understanding the risks. Involving yourself with a kids developing sexuality is an extremely irresponsible thing to do, something most kids can’t understand but most adults can. That’s why even if they want it, it’s still the adults responsibility not to involve themselves.

    I feel pretty weird about making this comment, as so much of the stuff here is super personal, stuff nobody in my personal life knows (weirdly enough, it’s easier to tell to strangers), and I feel super weird and ashamed of this a lot of the time, I wish so much that I could undo it, but I want it to be known because it seems like people don’t know what can happen… And it’s important to me. I hate to see people being like, “well they wanted it!!” as if that makes it alright and not harmful. I will say, it’s not harmful in the same way as force or coercion, that’s harmful in more of a traumatizing and trust damaging way. But that’s not the only way it can be harmful. It’s simply harmful in a different way. I know also my experience isn’t directly related to the topic, it’s not a story of sexual abuse, but it does have similarities, as my own sexuality was heavily involved and affected, and as if the other person involved was interested in sex, they could have very easily gotten that, along with if I told the story up to a certain point without saying that I was never sexually abused by this person, they’d probably think that’s what was coming, that they were grooming me for sexual abuse. It has enough similarities to be relevant to the point I want to make, and that is the kind of damage that can be done if an adult involves themselves in an adolescents sexuality.

  • Cyndal Correia

    I’m sorry, but children do not know WHAT is good for them. When a child says “I want to stay home from school and eat candy and watch tv”, we don’t make it a constitutional violation of their rights when parents say “no, go to school, read a book, and you can’t live off of candy.” And just as telling a child they cannot live off of candy is not considered body-shaming, I don’t think saying “no, 37 year old man, my 4 year old does not want to “experience pleasure” by having you molest her”, is NOT considered smothering her sexuality. If you find yourself sexually attracted to children, schedule an appointment with Dr. Kavorkian. It is NOT the same as homosexuality or interracial marriage. It’s predatory. We don’t say “hey, he wants to have sex with my grandmother’s dead body, I guess that’s the same thing as my wife and I having sex. Go for it, Mike!” Wtf?

    • Thinkaboutit

      A 4 year old is not a 15 year old.

      Your argument is like saying, don’t let people smoke because someone else does heroin. Or.. don’t eat this tasty organic beef, because people eat macdonalds meat.

      Don’t make love with a 15 year old, because some people rape 4 year olds.


      • Cyndal Correia

        Listen, don’t have sex with a 15 year old. It’s that simple! Like I’m not gonna sit here and argue with some internet pedophile about whether or not under aged girls and boys need “sexual pleasure”. And I’m sorry, but I don’t think sex with a minor or eating meat are on the same level, you fucking pervert.

      • RandallPoopenmeyer

        It makes complete sense for someone to be attracted to a post pubescent human, no matter what the age is,
        they CAN consent, and have been for thousands of years when people died in their 30s. Besides, who is to blame when two minors of the same age have sexual relations?

      • Cyndal Correia

        Oh my god…seriously? I honestly think you should kill yourself if you find yourself attracted to minors or endorsing child sexuality. Being secretly attracted to a 17 year old is whatever, but fucking a 14/15 is just sick. As adults, have some self control and don’t have sec with minors. The fuck? Like, you can’t find a woman, so you start going after little girls? Please! Give me a break! There will never be a good reason to have sex with kids. There’s no argument that could ever change my mind on that! Yuck! Literally, y’all make me sick. And this is for everyone who supports having sex with kids. ??

      • RandallPoopenmeyer

        The age for being a minor is an arbitrary number, 17 is still a minor, so why do YOU make that exception?. Your assumptions do not apply to me. I was just making a true, biological statement. I don’t want sex with minors. I am a female, and males mature later in life. You don’t get to decide who is a child and who can’t make decisions for themselves.
        So go fuck yourself and get some reading comprehension skills, piece of shit :). And take your stupid picture down if you care so much about predators, your daughter is ugly anyway lol

      • Cyndal Correia

        Really, I don’t have a daughter, but even if I did, that’s nice that you’d call a little girl ugly. Considering you’re fighting for the biological right to have sex with children. And the reason I said 17 was because that is the only way I could ever maybe understand someone being remotely attracted to a child as maybe they would mistake them for being older. A 17 year old may look similar to an 18 year old, as where a 12 year old should not. And I’m not talking a 19 year old and a 17 year old hooking up or some shit, I’m talking some 39 year old man sleeping with a fucking 16 year old. It’s fucking sickening. And I’m sorry, but I’m really not at all insulted by someone in defense of being sexually attracted to children, whether they’re in puberty or not. Some girls develop early, possibly as early as 9, and though they may have womanly features does not mean they want to be sexual beings or be ogled by some fucking creeper who wants to pop her cherry because she looks older than she is. If a pedophile keeps to themselves and never ever offends no one will even know. Keep that sickness to yourself or like I said, do the world a favor and just kill yourself. Anyone who views children as sexual beings is fucking deeply disturbed and should just kill themselves.

      • RandallPoopenmeyer

        I’m not fighting for anything. Just saying certain attractions are natural. You seem awfully angry, maybe you have some feelings you are ashamed of?
        Hundreds of years ago teenagers were having children because humans died at a younger age. Looks like most humans were disturbed by your words. You are are a retarded piece of shit. Instead of just make calling me names and wasting your time with me, why don’t you do something about it?
        Yea, you can’t and won’t do shit.
        Learn to read, I’m not attracted to prepubescent humans. Go take a biology class. And even if I was, what are you going to do about it? Lol

      • Cyndal Correia

        Honestly, you just sound like a fucking creep. You’re obviously a troll, you can see it in all the fights you have with people in these discussions on your profile. So I’m really not worried. I’m not gonna cry over some pedo on the Internet calling me names. ?

      • RandallPoopenmeyer

        Blah blah blah. You are the pedophile considering that you specifically created an account to comment on THIS ARTICLE ONLY. Freak, goodbye.

      • Cyndal Correia

        K, thanks for the insight. ?

      • Golden Bears!

        You are the one with absolutely appalling reading comprehension skills.

      • Cguy

        “I honestly think you should kill yourself”

        Yeah, really good fucking logic there. Look, I agree there should be some minimum age of consent, however abstract. Maybe 13 or 14. But if a 13 or 14 year old has thought about the decision and understands what they’re doing, what the fuck is wrong with banging them? And if they regret it later, so what? Everyone has regrets.

        Don’t let society tell you what’s right or not. Open your eyes, sheep.

      • john widmer

        I hate to break it to you, but your entire family history tree has been built on this kind of sexuality, because the average lifespan was about 30.

        The reason species develop is due to enviromental pressures, and humans are evolved to produce as young as possible (still far, far later than other species due to the enlarged cranium vs body size), and for as long as possible.

        If it was “wrong” people would be barren until they hit 20-25 and then it’d be in the proper zone of where everyone agrees sex and babies should take place in contemporary times.

      • SUP

        its normal to be attracted to teenagers who are developing. its one thing to want sex wiith a prepupescent child but its another with an old teenage. if an old teenage iis very sexual and has had sex before, i fail to see why thats necessarily rape nor taking advantage of

      • Meredith Turtle

        I have to say as much as youre right, let me add this. A sexual attrection is provoked solely by appearance, and when youre talking about how a persons appearance shows how old they are looks can be very decieving. For example, someone who looks 4 may much to your surprize actually be 8, and vise versa. Also the age a person becomes pubescent varries a lot. That being said, unless the child youre dealing with is SOOOO incredibly young that just by looking at them you can tell there is NO FLIPPIN WAY IN HELL they can POSSIBLY be pubescent then the attraction someone may have toward them being labeled as pedophilia is actually quite arbitrary… Basically what im saying is in order for it to be an unnatural attraction the child would have to be boarderline newborn. Because it is very difficult to tell purely by appearance whether or not a child is pubescent.

      • SUP

        I agree. I remember reading siblings who never met before had sexual attraction to each other

      • Meredith Turtle

        No you said that exactly right “I dont THINK sex with a minor and eating meat are on the same level” A statement that cannot be inarguable without the words “I THINK” is precisely what constitutes an OPINION. And everyone has a right to their own, including children. If your child disagrees with this they do not deserve to be coerced and/or indoctrinated into changing their opinion to match yours simply because youre so opinionated about it or because the mass majority of the world is on your side. And to say thay until a person reaches a certain age they cant make logical decisions is to say that anyone under that age is undoubtedly, inevitably, and incontrovertibly an idiot and therefore they need to be constrained and forced to make a choice to either change their opinion or be treated like a monster their whole life.

    • SUP

      i think having an attraction to children is normal sometimes and isnt necessarily predatory. That doesnt mean people should act on their desires with 13 year olds and below because thatts dangerous. Taboo desires are normal sometimes

  • Evan Gaensbauer

    There are cultures in the world today much more comfortable with older men marrying younger women than ours is. I remember learning in high school in the Dark and Middle Ages girls might be married off as young as thirteen or fourteen. Perhaps they were betrothed by families at an even younger age; I don’t know.

    So, there are cultures from the West and the past thought of as more or less adult women what we now think of children. I’m guessing whatever ‘consent’ meant 1000 years ago is unrecognizable compared to today’s meaning. Cultures where older women have sex with males our culture labels ‘children’ rather than ‘adults’ under law could exist. I’m guessing they’d be much rarer, because most cultures are patriarchal and would frown upon it. I’ve read of cultures where all the adults are comfortable with children having sex with other children. I don’t know of any culture which wouldn’t condemn adults having casual sex with children.

  • john widmer

    Google Judith Levine and Foucault on the age of consent, as well as depression linked to sexually active teens. Things get even hairier when we look at the actual evidence, that sex is harmful to teens when with other teens just as much as it’d be harmful with adults where they, for lack of a better term, consented.

    If we believe sex is harmful to minors ,and must be prevented even with law, we should be imprisoning minors who visit this sexual abuse on other minors. To fail to imprison a boyfriend for sex with his underage girlfriend in high school is to fail to seek justice for the wrong that was visited to her; after all, she cannot consent by law and is a victim, and it can be shown that she could have as much a negative life experience as with an adult, and we can also make the claim that in teen on teen sex she still does not fully comprehend all her actions.

    In the case of T on T, all the claims made agianst T on A sex are still valid; the naivety of the individual, the lack of informed decision making, the possibility of being manipulated, etc. So why do underage get a free pass in laws to have sex with other underage so often? Isn’t there still a victim?

    I think most people find the idea of locking up other teens for sex abhorrent, but suddenly it is the individual who had sex with their partner who is abhorrent, even subhuman, if they are 18 or older, because the legal status as adult suddenly means they’re sex predators and a blight to society.

    Its just today’s modern witch hunt with a new face. You find all the evil scum in your society and destroy them mentally and physically, because that’ll stop the world from being evil. We burned witches for the same reasons; we make a claim that some evils are happening in our society and say that its due to these people over here because they’re a witch, and thus we can feel a group catharsis from torturing and destroying them.

    It was the same way in the Russian communist state where they killed off their own peasantry as being evil, simply because they’d worked their way up from serfdom to actually having a little money and a farm. Its the same way they talked about the jews and gays in Nazi Germany. Its the same way they talked about “commies” in the McCarthy era, and although the ideals of communism have always wrought horrific results, the persecution of people who may have been innocent, which resulted in their loss of job, family, and sometimes even their life via suicide, created a huge backlash against this kind of witch hunting, at least against marxist ideologues.

    Marxist ideologues became SJWs, then started talking about how men are sex predators, and came up with the new witch to hunt: age of consent violators.

    Its a fad, designed for unthinking masses to feel pleasure at the destruction of individuals because of what they’re labeled as, not because of what harm they may or may not have actually committed.

  • Waaaaa

    I am just going to say that since as long as I remember, I had been attracted to women sexually. I masturbated when I was 7. I vaguely reme,ber getting yelled at by my mother for trying to look at my vagina (I was around 3 years I think), and I would always touch my genitalias, trying to discover it, or because it felt good. I didn’t know anything about sex, and yet I still wanted to touch people (but I nevr did). I only came to learn about sex when I was 10, and it was treated as something shameful for kids, and of course, nobody knew abojt me masturbating, since I felt guilty or uneasy to tell anybody (you NEVER touch private parts!!!!).
    Today, I am 17, and thinking about how embarrassed I was about my sexuality, and simply never being told that this thing is normal and natural, makes me wanna roll my eyes at how absurd the whole sex=adults only is. Now, I am trying my best to feel less unckmfortable around men, even though I am attracted to women as well, but because of the heteronormative society, females and males are made to believe that they are whole different species…
    Seems like I changed the topic. Anyway, sex is not shameful, and I think we need to make it less of a private thing. This way, less people get fooled or manipulated since they can be more frank about sex and desire. Of course, abuse and rape should never be tolerated, but at least victims won’t be as traumatized since they would feel less violated.