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Overcoming Bias Commenter's avatar

I believe some John Lennon lyrics capture the spirit of this post:

"Love is wanting to be loved"

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Gavin Nop's avatar

I'd posit that dating is a process of bootstrapping yourself up the hierarchy. The first innate physical desire allows each party to bet small amounts of reputation on offering more desire in order to signal their desire slowly moving up the meta hierarchy you identified. Issues arise if both partners don't believe that the degree of their desires are not synced up in depth. This would also line up with women's emotional desires being held as better, since those desires are often associated with a later, more advanced form of a developing relationship.

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