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Kimberlee Taylor's avatar

Robin sounds like a psychologist?

I think all the emotions we feel have an origin, and it is therapeutic to trace them back to their sources--When we realize we are not MEAN for having dark feelings, but justified, it helps us to feel a sense of balance and wholeness--acceptance.

When we are angry or sad, we should treat ourselves the same way that we would treat a small child who is angry or sad. What would we do? We would calmly ask the child to explain what had happened to make them so upset, then side with them, BOO the wrongdoer, boost the child's self-image, and then give them a hug. We should nurture our inner child.

Jesus really was a Masterful teacher of Compassion. In the same vein, the Buddhist Bodhisattvic Vow entails the promise to help all sentient beings. I read a book once that said, "Be kind to everyone--but hey--Everyone includes YOU." So we should be kind to others, and also be accepting of our own human frailties.. We humans are just one jumbled heap of humanity, as Sarah Mclauchan said, who are "stumbling towards ecstacy."

When it comes to sadness, there is an African adage that says, "A wise child knows how to turn sorrow into song." We are meant to experience our emotions straight on, honestly, process them with keen awareness and self-acceptance, and do what seems right, that which would bring peace to ourselves and others. Storms form, build, then pass. When we deal with sadness full-heartedly, through many tears and prayers, and words to those involved, the heaviness will pass quickly, instead of lingering in a dark shadow.

"Just a spoonful of sugar, makes the medicine go down," Mary Poppins used to sing. That sugar is C O M P A S S I O N.

There is a saying, "Be kind to everyone, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."

So then: Compassion for All.

Sugar.

But I'm not too sure about dark joy. All I will say is that I do think having jealousy and dreams of revenge should not to be indulged in. Comparing ourselves to others in a dark way stems from low self-esteem. If we ever feel jealous of anyone, we should completely downgrade it from jealousy to an appreciative sense of envy, and then just sigh and realize that although we do not possess whatever enviable quality the other person has, we ourselves have qualities that ROCK! Qualities that the other person could quite possibly be desirous of.

Once I told my little 3 year old cousin, "Well, nobody's perfect." "I am!" she pertly responded!

At first I thought she was very arrogant, but then I thought, "No, that's incredibly healthy. We should all feel that way about ourselves."

I give myself time to grow, slowly, through each stage of my ignorance, allowing myself the compassion of self-acceptance, for I know that in order to get from Point A to Point Z, I have to fully grow through each stage, in a true sense of Presence. It really makes each day beautiful.

Self-acceptance is where it's at.

I love myself.

And I love you.

I love everybody.

I love the Sky.

I love Nature.

And I love Life.

I love the adventure of having choices, and the free will to be able to choose which goals I want to pursue.

Thank you for reading this.

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this made me understand more

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